Thanks, I get asked this question a lot. In Tantra, it is important that you are receiving the gifts I am offering. Many people believe that in order to feel pleasure, they need to be giving pleasure. That can be very rewarding and self validating. But it is not the core essence of how to receive a tantric experience. How can a person know what their lover is feeling if they don’t give themselves permission to receive in a similar way? I ask that you trust that you’re in good hands, and that what I offer will be plenty of pleasure for both of us. So the answer is no. The best way to give to me is to take immense joy in what I am already offering you. 🙂